You’re better off ditching the crappy, manipulative dating tactics and sending a nice, normal message.Unless both of you make it clear in your profiles that you are on this site for sex and only sex, keep the message PG — yes, even if there’s a mention of something sexual in the person’s profile, and yes, even if you think your sexual reference is cute or funny or clever.Responding to a few items in a person’s profile will take somewhere between three and eight sentences; if you find yourself writing a six-paragraph missive, work that delete key.Be original We can tell when your message is copied and pasted to multiple people.If you’re sending a message, the recipient already knows you’ve looked at their pictures and find them attractive.So instead of stating the obvious, point to what it was that attracted you to their personality (or at least the fragment of their personality that they put on the Internet).More from Buzz Feed: Don't be weird So you’ve caught on that “hey wuzz up” is generally understood to be an unoriginal message. However, copying and pasting some bizarre, rambling message isn’t going to trick someone into thinking you wrote all of that for them.
A one-sentence message probably isn’t saying enough, but you also don’t want to send a novel.Be nice You would think “don't be a jerk” would be obvious, but there are apparently legions of people (mostly dudes) who adopt crappy pickup-artist tactics in their online dating lives, and think they might get lucky by sending vaguely (or blatantly) insulting messages to unsuspecting recipients (negging is actually a thing! Is there some low-self-esteem lady out there who might respond to a message about how ugly she is?Sure, maybe, but the odds are slim — and since this is the Internet, even women who have been strongly socialized to be nice to cretins in bars are able to hit the delete key.Of course, you’re as witty as can be, and have a great sense of humor.
Pretty soon you’ll be laughing together with your significant other. Sometimes we all just simply run out of ideas, it hasn’t been our day, or we’re just feeling a bit down.
“Hey gurl, luv ur pics” is not going to get a response.