It sounds to me like he wants to have a good relationship – he talks about the future, he introduced you to his family, he treats you like a girlfriend.From what you said, it doesn’t sound like he’s trying to avoid commitment so that he can see other women.I would bet there were assumptions that you made that upset you that very well might not be the case.It is quite possible that if you talked with him calmly and rationally, it would put both of you at ease. it really depends on how easily each of you can have a calm, understanding discussion to let the other one know where you stand.For all I know, he might have committed to his ex-wife and once he did, it was all downhill.For that reason, he might believe (on an emotional level) that if he starts defining commitments that the relationship will go downhill.I understand your concerns though – you don’t want to waste your time with a relationship that won’t work out, especially since you want to be a mother someday.
My rationale was that I was too emotionally caught up and didn’t know when he would have the ‘capacity.’ He was in utter shock!I don’t get that vibe from what you’re talking about here.I get the impression that he is working out his stuff and his intention is for the relationship to develop once he’s stabilized himself.He said that he expected me to pull back, but not cut it off completely.
Then, he back peddled and said he prays daily for god to release some of the things in his life.
All I can say is (from what you’ve told me) is that he sounds like he probably had a rough time with his first marriage and wants to be extra careful this time around.