Dating beneath you

Relationships and breakups are difficult for either party, and one person usually ends up with much deeper cuts and scars.Newsflash: This may be the person you are now dating. You like the potential of what he could be, rather than the reality of what he is. You’re dating ‘beneath’ yourself so that you think that you can control him and the direction of the relationship. He finds it difficult to make basic efforts such as calling and showing up when he says that he will.

You’re not really bothered one way or another about him, or the relationship. You’re with him because you’re afraid of being ‘alone’. In order for the relationship to work, you need to cut yourself off from family and friends. You both want very different things on key points that are important to you both, but you’re holding out hope that one day he’ll come round to your way of thinking. Not only that, but letting someone in also allows opens the person up to the possibility of getting hurt again.Once someone is traumatized in that way, earning his or her trust can be difficult.This person is the hidden gem you've been searching for.

This person will change your life, love you deeply and teach you so much.

Allow this person to make the choice and call the shots when he or she is ready. Be the awesome person you are, and everything will be just fine. Going that first mile is probably difficult enough. But if this is the person you want to be with, there is always a way to make it work. Just be sure you're not only in it for the challenge.