You chose him – you knew what kind of an animal he was when you started going out.It’s not like one morning he just went out and started having sexy flirtations with other women all of a sudden and you were shocked. but secretly you hoped and believed that he would change for you.Do you know what’s at the core of why women put up with behavior they find unacceptable? The reality of it is that if you want to mentally and emotionally be in a place where you have any say in your relationship, you have to diminish your fear of loss.Let me shift your attention to the fact that you this guy.There are times where one person might inspire change in another person, but it’s because the other person wanted the change themselves as well.There are times where one person will get their act together because they’re afraid to lose something good or they’re determined to win something good.You say that you give him everything he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally. you’re basically saying that you’re his perfect dream girl.Maybe what you meant is that you’re giving him everything *you think* he needs sexually, emotionally, etc. Oftentimes, we love other people in the way that we want to be loved – and while you make certain adjustments toward him since he’s a dude, it’s not safe to bet that you’re satisfying his every need…
Why would he be having these sexy, flirtatious conversations with these other women?Instead, you’re focusing on how YOU feel about it and that YOU don’t like it. You can feel hurt and victimized or you can open your eyes to the bigger picture…and maybe learn something valuable about your guy in the process (maybe some need that he still needs met).But I can’t think of a time where the insecurity of one partner inspired a change in the other partner.
Especially when the insecure partner isn’t willing to walk away regardless of whether or not they get what they want.
because I know there are women reading this thinking, “Why should a woman do for this flirtatious disrespectful pig of a man? Here’s the deal – you’re asking me this question because you do not find his behavior acceptable. A guy always knows a woman’s limit is measured by how much she’s willing to tolerate.