We agreed that it was common, more so for some than others, but definitely a cultural issue, and apparently divide, between men and woman.I asked some of my guy friends what they thought “flirting” entailed. Miles: “Like calling each other babe so like pet names or like making each other laugh and keeping a convo.” James: “Smiling, eye contact, texting…” Jack: “Haha tbh I don’t really even know anymore.I had to police myself because I know that too much interest, even just in the activity, can be seen by a man as flirting.I do not feel as though I should have to be so careful.We, as ladies, tend to have pretty intense standards of what flirting really entails.To me and most of my girlfriends, flirting is quite obvious—staring at each other, giggling at everything the other person says, laughing at the funny and not-so-funny jokes, smiling more than is socially acceptable, etc. At least, I thought I knew when I was showing someone I was interested vs. In my experience, I tend to be “flirting” a good bit more than I think I am.Some seem to feel like any sort of interest in conversation (or texting?) is flirting, some think it’s more intimate conversation with compliments and lots of laughs, but some think it has to involve purposeful touching.
If I get really giggly or start touching you playfully, that’s flirting.I used to think it was pulling on a girl’s ponytail but I don’t really think that’s it.I dunno, I kid around with them and try to see how I can poke their buttons.” Aik: “Honestly I don’t know because people tell me I flirt [with people I simply speak with] and I don’t think I do so idk.” Alex: “It’s definitely more suggestive.Finally, it is important to understand what is exhibited when someone is not flirting, on purpose.
For example, if you’re talking to someone (of any gender) and they are hardly looking at you or looking around the room, they are low-key telling you to back off.
Overly nice, body language can give off the sign they may be trying to flirt.